I’ve been engaged 3 times – only married once. The first time was to my high school sweetheart – a few short weeks before the ceremony – right before his college graduation – he broke my heart. He left me for another man. Uh-huh, you heard that right. Suffice it to say, we made our way back to each other six years later and have maintained a platonic friendship for many years (we send birthday and holiday cards to each other).
The second time was a rebound off of the previous situation – what was I thinking???
This time there was a wedding – and just as I was about to divorce the guy 2 years later, I found out that my marriage wasn’t legal to begin with – so I got an anullment for sixty bucks.
I spent the next 10 years of my life dating a few guys but I never felt empowered in my relationships with them. Right before I moved out west, I was dating a guy who was 20 years older than myself. One Sunday afternoon, he sat me on his knee (like a daughter) and gave me the talk that I wish my own father had given me around age 14 or so. He taught me what I needed to know about how men think and how to maintain my own standards and self-esteem regarding dating relationships. (By the way, he’s a published author on relationships).
Let me tell you, my whole world changed after that afternoon. I learned that I now had the key to attract the types of relationships I desire – be they of a personal or of a business nature. No longer did I feel like a victim of romantic circumstances! I felt like a caterpillar who had just metamorphed into a monarch butterfly. To this day, when I remember to follow this advice, things always turn out great.
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